Weddings

Tomorrow I am going to a friends wedding. It will be an amazing day.
A day of celebration of the union of two people. A celebration of people people becoming one.
Forever.

So its a good event, an important event.

and a long one.

tomorrow i have to start setting up the sound/band for the reception at 9am.
have a band practice for the service at 10.30
have the service at 1
have the meal at 3
start playing in the reception band at 7.30
dance etc and wait for the dj to finish at 11? may be...
then pack down.

the man hours involved in a wedding are huge.
its strange.

Sometimes i feel the sometimes there is more energy spent on the celebration than the marriage these days.
if some couples who are going through some hard stuff spent as much time, energy , money, and sacrificing themselves for their partners on sorting out problems as they did for the one day to celebrate the marriage there would be a lot less break ups. and with a lot less break ups there would be a lot less broken families - obviously there are a lot of borken families with parent who have great marriages.

This is a go at the celebration. but it is a lot of energy, and some times it seems that there is less energy being put in to save relationships than to celebrate the start of the union.

but tomorrow I shall have a lot of fun, and i will work hard to make the day as special as possible for them.

but there is also a challange for me.... if i'm prepared to put this much energy for one day for them... i need to be prepared to put much more energy in to helping them if problems do ever arise.